• Be present.,  obstacles,  small steps

    Reflections on my six-month stint on Instagram.

    George Berkeley once asked, “if a tree falls in the forest and no one hears it, does it make a sound?” If I were to translate this question as a stay-at-home mom today, I would ask, “if a mama empties the dishwasher but doesn’t document it, did it really happen?” Both of these questions involve our perceptions of life and the world around us. I have been thinking about this as I consider the purpose of social media in my life. Many people use social media in a constructive way but I have struggled to find that balance in my own life. While I wasn’t super involved on Instagram, I…

  • begin,  Productivity,  task at hand

    What have you been putting off?

    Let’s begin TODAY. Begin NOW. Two years from now, you will be glad you did it. Shoot, fifteen minutes from now you will be glad you did it. (I literally tell myself, “you’ll be glad you did it fifteen minutes from now” and it helps to motivate me in all sorts of situations.) If you feel stuck, begin by tackling the task at hand and celebrate the little victories today. We are in this together! Anita Photo: unsplash

  • obstacles,  Procrastination,  task at hand

    10 reasons we procrastinate

    We are afraid to begin because we are fixated on perfection and can only imagine failing. We don’t believe we can complete a task because we have failed before. We don’t know how to complete a task or we aren’t sure how to begin. We have a disordered attitude toward work and leisure. We make plans and write to-do lists with no real course of action. We can’t see through the chaos of our currently reality to the potential order on the other side so we feel paralyzed. We aren’t free to act due to distractions, lack of sleep and other obstacles. So far, we have made it work by…

  • Be present.,  small steps,  task at hand

    Little Things

    Here’s to all of the little things you will encounter today. The people before us and the tasks at hand are worthwhile. Little drops of water, little grains of sand, make the mighty ocean, and the pleasant land So the little moments, humble though they be, make the mighty ages, of eternity Excerpt from the poem, Little Things by Julia Abigail Fletcher Carney (1823-1908) You are not alone in your pursuit of the little things. Thanks for being here. Anita

  • how-to,  Productivity

    Conquering to-do lists.

    I don’t know about you but I have a bunch of to-do lists. Lists on paper, lists in the Notes app on my phone and mental to-do lists a mile long. Not to mention the to-do list that I rattle off to my husband as he asks me how my day has been. While to-do lists can be helpful, I have found them paralyzing because it’s hard to know what to tackle first and if procrastination sets in, I am a goner. I have started tackling my to-do list by writing down three things every day that I hope to accomplish. This is usually in addition to other more routine-things…

  • Motherhood,  task at hand

    When motherhood feels more difficult for you than everyone else.

    I felt this way for years but I am slowly learning…⁣ ⁣Motherhood is not easier for everyone else but there is a steep learning curve.⁣ ⁣We all have different capacities and my capacity in one area may be more or less than another mama’s capacity in that area.⁣ What matters to me, may or may not matter to that mama. ⁣⁣ ⁣Mamas who seem to be rockin’ it have often worked very hard to develop habits and systems that serve them well.⁣ We never see the whole story, especially on social media.⁣ ⁣So much of this comes down to comparison.⁣ And comparison sucks the joy out of everything.⁣ ⁣Comparison is…

  • Be present.,  progress,  task at hand

    Freedom today.

    Do any of the following lies creep into your mind? You are literally the only person in the world who deals with this struggle. This is such an insignificant thing, there is no reason to share it with anyone, let alone a room full of people. You are alone. I recently attended a retreat for women through our church community and I was asked to give a personal sharing at the end of the retreat. I was asked to share how Jesus, as our hope, has transformed my daily, ordinary life. I considered what I should share and heard all of the lies I listed above, telling me I am…

  • Procrastination,  progress,  task at hand

    Procrastination.

    I was a full-fledged, card-carrying member of “Procrastinators unite… tomorrow” for YEARS. ⁣Sure, there may be positive ways to look at why we procrastinate but for me, it’s mostly a problem. It’s been helpful for me to identify WHY I default to procrastination on any given day. ⁣⁣I procrastinate for one (or more) of the following reasons: ⁣⁣– I’m afraid to fail and I’m fixated on perfection. ⁣– I don’t believe I can complete a task.⁣– I don’t know how to do it. ⁣⁣So this basically comes up every day. ⁣⁣In his book, Eat That Frog (SO good), Brian Tracy recommends that we plan our days out in advance, determine…

  • Homemaking,  how-to

    A case for homemaking today

    Homemaking. Does that word make you feel uncomfortable? As if homemaking was a thing hundreds of years ago (or back in the 1950s) but we have evolved beyond it now? The crazy this is that we still live in homes… and we still need to care for them. However, we are busy people and we can spend a lot of our time outside of the house and when we are home, we are distracted. The stress and chaos within our homes is palpable the second we step in the door but it is difficult to know how to deal with it. The homemaking stereotype In the past, when I considered…

  • how-to

    It doesn’t have to be forever.

    There are times (aka seasons) in our lives when we need to give ourselves ample amounts of grace and patience. These seasons may involve the time right before or after a baby is born, an especially busy work schedule for you or your spouse, extreme weather (hello, winter), or when you or someone in your family is dealing with physical or mental health struggles. We can give ourselves grace during these times by making temporary changes that help ease the burden of the moment. These changes might not fix a problem but they may help you and your family get through a difficult or crazy season of life. The following…