• begin,  small steps

    Hang the picture frames.

    You know when you have something running the back of your mind and it kind of bothers you but not enough for you to do anything about it? That was my experience with these picture frames. ⁣ All of these paintings/prints hung in my grandparents’ house and when my grandpa passed away, they were given to me. ⁣ Then they sat in a stack in our master bedroom for MONTHS. Every time I looked at our empty dining room wall, I’d think of the frames. Every time I looked at the stack of frames in our room, I thought about how I should hang them up. ⁣ Every day for…

  • small steps,  task at hand

    The temptation to multitask.

    As we launch back into regular, old life and re-establish our routines, I begin to want to do all of the things. I try to hold the fussy baby, while unloading the dishwasher and acting as a mediator between the two older boys who were wrestling which ended with one brother getting body-checked into the couch. As I try to multitask, nothing I attempt has my full attention and it all becomes half-measures. Nothing gets done well and everyone can feel that they don’t have my full attention. Cue more whining and crying and me trying to do more because I just want to get it done. Let’s re-commit to…

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    Remember all of the beautiful things.

    This weekend, our oldest son who is almost five years old, woke up and told me he had a bad dream. He tried to describe it to me – something about going into a building and seeing something scary in a hallway. He couldn’t quite explain it but I could tell he was bothered by it. We talked about it and then said a prayer before he headed back upstairs. As we walked up the stairs to go back to bed, he stopped and looked at me and said, I don’t like bad dreams because they make me forget about all of the beautiful things. From the mouths of babes.…

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    When you’re stuck in a funk

    Do you ever end up in a funk but nothing in particular has gone wrong? I had a day like that yesterday and I decided to vacuum the hardwood floors while the boys played happily together. Vacuuming totally pulled me out of the funk! This has happened before (I think it’s due to the white noise + space to think + the simple joy of a clean floor). I decided to write down a list of questions to ask myself the next time one of those mornings happen and I need to get out of a funk. In the past, I would throw my hands up and resign to having…

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    Anything Worth Doing is Worth Doing Perfectly

    Said no one ever. Although no one would consciously repeat that statement, let alone live by it, I lived a lot of my life as if it was true. I wish I could tell you how many times I allowed perfection to stop me in my tracks. This became particularly true as our three sons were added, one by one to our family. Anything I attempted, like folding laundry, emptying the dishwasher, or writing a meal plan and grocery list was interrupted and incomplete by the end of the day. I became discouraged and quit trying to start anything because I couldn’t see it through from start to finish. I…

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    Why Progress over Perfection?

    My husband and I often look at each other, shrug our shoulders and say, “progress over perfection.” This is usually in response to either 1.) a task we are attempting that hasn’t totally crashed and burned but has turned out differently than we expected or 2.) something that is going well at the same time as something else we wish was going better. We are deep in the years of raising children – three boys 4.5 and under. We love the adventures of raising boys but things rarely go exactly as planned. Striving for progress over perfection has been a great source of freedom and peace for our family. We…

  • how-to,  small steps

    Brush your teeth (and other small steps).

    If you want to establish a new routine, learn a new skill or develop a habit, it’s not enough to acknowledge the desire and wish it into reality. While it is helpful to begin with the end goal in mind, you’ll need to determine small, manageable steps you can take to achieve the goal. Most things are difficult in the beginning – don’t let that stop you from trying something new. Beginning with small steps will make it possible. We are striving for progress over perfection here, so it’s okay if the steps are very simple and very small. Taking steps toward a goal builds momentum and the steps will…

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    Small Steps Matter

    Our four year old son just got his first bicycle. When we brought it home, he said he wanted to learn to pop a wheelie. He’d never ridden a bike before so we explained that there are many steps between bringing a bike home and learning to pop a wheelie. In that moment with my son, it seemed obvious to me that small steps matter. We needed to take small steps to buy the bike and helmet, bring it home and begin practicing the basics before he could contemplate anything more complicated. It doesn’t seem as obvious to me in my own life, though. Often times, I tell myself the…

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    Does anyone still read blogs?

    I am usually late to the party – this happens to me all of the time. I grew out my bangs three years after everyone else in middle school. I discovered the joy of avocado toast by the time it was old news. And I bet I finally get around to painting our oak-stained cabinets right as everyone is regretting their decision to do it years ago. Maybe the same will be true with starting this blog. I’ve been thinking about starting one for years and am definitely late to the party, yet again. It’s okay. On this blog, we are going to be about focusing on progress over perfection.…