• task at hand

    9 questions to ask yourself when you’re unable to complete a task

    Do you really need to complete this task or are you motivated by expectations people may or may not be placing on you? Do you have the capacity to care about completing this task right now? If not, can you postpone or delegate this task to someone else? Are you distracted? Do you have enough time to do it or do you need to find another day/time to complete the task? Do you need to break the task into smaller steps? Are you convicted the task is worthwhile or do you need to change your mindset? Do you know how to complete the task (do you have the knowledge and/or…

  • Homemaking,  how-to,  task at hand

    The kitchen trash.

    How’s that for a blog post title? Earlier this month, I wrote about that thing in the back of your mind that kind of bothers you but not enough for you to do anything about it. I find that even if it doesn’t bother me enough to address it right this second, it is still playing in the background, stealing precious brain-space I could be using elsewhere. When I finally do something about it, I experience immediate relief followed by the feeling of man, I should have done that sooner. Case in point, the kitchen trash. After years of zero rhyme or reason to when we’d take out the trash,…

  • Be present.,  progress

    It is better to give than to receive.

    Do I believe this is true? Do I live this out? Or is this just a nice idea for those who work with the poor but not so much for a mom at home with her kids? Obviously, the “right” answer to this question is yes but it can be excruciatingly difficult to live it out. For me, “it is better to give than to receive,” looks like loving and serving my boys generously today without them acknowledging it. They will most likely ignore my service or even work against it. In order to live this out, I have to ask myself, am I ready to love and make their…

  • begin,  small steps

    Hang the picture frames.

    You know when you have something running the back of your mind and it kind of bothers you but not enough for you to do anything about it? That was my experience with these picture frames. ⁣ All of these paintings/prints hung in my grandparents’ house and when my grandpa passed away, they were given to me. ⁣ Then they sat in a stack in our master bedroom for MONTHS. Every time I looked at our empty dining room wall, I’d think of the frames. Every time I looked at the stack of frames in our room, I thought about how I should hang them up. ⁣ Every day for…

  • Be present.,  small steps,  task at hand

    The temptation to multitask.

    As we launch back into regular, old life and re-establish our routines, I begin to want to do all of the things. I try to hold the fussy baby, while unloading the dishwasher and acting as a mediator between the two older boys who were wrestling which ended with one brother getting body-checked into the couch. As I try to multitask, nothing I attempt has my full attention and it all becomes half-measures. Nothing gets done well and everyone can feel that they don’t have my full attention. Cue more whining and crying and me trying to do more because I just want to get it done. Let’s re-commit to…

  • task at hand

    Happy 2019.

    Merry Christmas. Happy New Year. We made it. How are you doing?  I’m getting back to the basics around here until things return to normal and I can consider how to make the most of 2019. I’ve found that January 1st isn’t the best time for me to make that decision (or really anytime between Christmas – New Year’s Day). If words of the year, resolutions, detox (from sugar, hosting, travel, late nights, etc), and how to return to normal life have your head spinning, here is my suggestion. Tackle the task at hand. (I told you we’re going back to the basics.) This is how I do it.  In dire…

  • Homemaking,  how-to,  Productivity

    Choose one day of the week to stay home.

    I have been a mama for almost five years.  It has taken me close to five years to have the brain space to figure out what I need to do on a regular basis to make this whole marriage, motherhood and homemaking thing work. This is still a constant work in progress but I have found one thing that has revolutionized our life at home. Mondays. Mondays used to be the bane of my existence. I felt frazzled after busy weekends and I would plan to go grocery shopping or have a play date first thing on Monday morning. I really dreaded Monday morning because I didn’t feel ready to…

  • Motherhood,  small steps

    Remember all of the beautiful things.

    This weekend, our oldest son who is almost five years old, woke up and told me he had a bad dream. He tried to describe it to me – something about going into a building and seeing something scary in a hallway. He couldn’t quite explain it but I could tell he was bothered by it. We talked about it and then said a prayer before he headed back upstairs. As we walked up the stairs to go back to bed, he stopped and looked at me and said, I don’t like bad dreams because they make me forget about all of the beautiful things. From the mouths of babes.…

  • how-to,  Productivity

    More peace and less crazy this holiday season.

    As I type this, instrumental Christmas music plays quietly in the background. I am drinking coffee and sitting under a cozy blanket. However, I don’t have a single piece of Christmas or Advent decor up yet. Today is November 25. I can’t say that the lack of decor is based on principle. There are plenty of people who choose not to decorate for Christmas until the night before or on a certain week during Advent to properly anticipate celebrating the birth of Jesus. However, that’s not the case for the Vettel household. I actually love listening to Christmas music and seeing Christmas decorations go up after Thanksgiving but other than…

  • how-to,  small steps

    When you’re stuck in a funk

    Do you ever end up in a funk but nothing in particular has gone wrong? I had a day like that yesterday and I decided to vacuum the hardwood floors while the boys played happily together. Vacuuming totally pulled me out of the funk! This has happened before (I think it’s due to the white noise + space to think + the simple joy of a clean floor). I decided to write down a list of questions to ask myself the next time one of those mornings happen and I need to get out of a funk. In the past, I would throw my hands up and resign to having…